Got a Girlfriend? Heres How Not to Screw It Up

Having a girlfriend can be a dangerous thing. We become too dependent on our woman for our happiness, and then if we get dumped, we find that we've all of a sudden lost our confidence. This results in having trouble meeting new women, being without sex for many months, until we finally get a girlfriend again, and... the cycle repeats.

So to break this cycle, we need to REMAIN the attractive guy, the alpha male.

You see, relationships can make us guys too lazy (since the sex is so easy) and we lose that "high value" mindset. It's crucial to keep that alpha male frame of mind that says, "I am like a Lamborghini."

Do Lamborghini dealerships grovel to try to get people to like them? Of course not. Instead they allow all the buyers to come to them. Hell, Lamborghini doesn't even advertise. As a man, you should have a similar confident mindset if you want to maximize the attraction your girlfriend feels for you.

So, how do you keep that alpha mindset? First and foremost, avoid chasing your girlfriend like a puppy dog. A basic concept which will prevent her from ever treating you badly is what I call Punishment and Reward.

If a woman engages in behavior which you disapprove of, punish her by withdrawing your time and focusing on something (or someone) else. If she does something you like (such as having sex with you), reward her by giving her more of your time, talking about her feelings, etc.

So whenever you do something nice for her, do it because you're rewarding her. And DO reward her good behavior, if you want more of it. Like I said, Punishment and Reward.

Then there's the issue of being a challenge. Women act sweet when you're a challenge to them. They act bitchy when they take you for granted and no longer feel like they need put out effort to win your affections.

Often by around month 6 in a relationship is when a woman really starts to take a guy for granted, so avoid that by remaining a challenge.

So the solution to remaining the attractive, alpha guy in your relationships is threefold:

1. Always be willing to focus your time on things other than your girlfriend. Don't reward her for acting bitchy by continuing to be around her when she does. On the other hand, too, reward her for good behavior by giving her more of your time when she acts sweet.

2. Always have it in the back of your mind that you could end the relationship at any time. Don't explicitly threaten her with that, but just make it a subtle implication. That way she'll never become truly comfortable with the relationship and will keep working to win you.

3. Always allow her to think that's she's just a little bit more interested in you than you are in her. Again, this can be very subtle, but if (for example) you're telling her 20 times a day that you love her, and she's only telling you that twice, then obviously the situation is badly out of whack.

John Alexander is author of How to Become an Alpha Male, a dating and seduction success system that will maximize your chances of getting and keeping that dream woman you've got your eye on. Find out more by visiting http://www.alphamalesystem.com/ebook.html

Freedom Debt Relief Offers Answers, Clarity for Those Struggling ... PR Web (press release), WA - Nov 21, 2008 Freedom Debt Relief co-founder and co-CEO Brad Stroh reminds those who are facing serious debt hardship that they do have options when it comes to getting ...

Nigeria: N360 Billion Debt Relief Fund - So Long a Tale of Many ... AllAfrica.com, Washington - Nov 17, 2008 This is a newly built hospital under the primary healthcare scheme sponsored by the government under the debt relief funds scheme. ...

Hope for Those with Debt Problems PR Web (press release), WA - 1 hour ago Debt Relief Ireland is a new debt advisory service that offers realistic solutions to mounting debt problems. Dublin, Ireland (PRWEB) November 22, ...

San Mateo County district attorney, California officials sue debt ... TMCnet - Nov 12, 2008 At attorney for the companies -- which include Bills.com, Freedom Debt Relief, Freedom Tax Relief, Freedom Student Loans and Freedom Mortgage -- said the ...

Debt Relief Offers Families a New Direction in Life PR-CANADA.net (press release), Montenegro - Nov 20, 2008 There are so many reasons why many families are turning to debt relief to reduce the burden of credit cards. Debt relief basically involves negotiating with ...

Legislation to target deceptive debt relief Norwalk Plus Magazine - Nov 14, 2008 By Governor Rell's Office Governor M. Jodi Rell today announced that she will propose legislation aimed at protecting consumers from the predatory practices ...

Urging debt relief for young fishermen Nova News Now, Canada - Nov 19, 2008 by John DeMings/Digby Courier Digby-Annapolis MLA Harold Theriault is urging provincial Fisheries Minister Ron Chisholm to lobby the federal government to ...

Debt Relief for Impoverished Nations Columbus Free Press, OH - Nov 17, 2008 Debt relief or debt cancellation gives the opportunity for Heavily Indebted Poor Countries (HIPC) to reprioritize funds and focus on development, ...

Board to vote on debt relief for Sports Legends Museum Baltimore Sun, United States - Nov 19, 2008 AP ANNAPOLIS - The Maryland Board of Public Works is scheduled Wednesday to vote on $444000 in debt relief for the Sports Legends Museum at Camden Yards. ...

Companies offering debt- relief services can be risky Arizona Daily Star, AZ - Nov 8, 2008 Each year, thousands of consumers nationwide sign up with so-called "debt settlement," "debt relief" or "debt negotiation" companies. ...